I didn’t fully agree with that reasoning, but I began to be more conscious of the words I said to the children. And so instead of the simple praises that I say easily without thinking about, I would say the child’s name and make an effort to let them know what I’m praising them for.
So instead of ‘good girl’ I can say “Thanks for listening and getting your hat, Clare” or instead of ‘good boy’ I could say “That’s great putting the blocks away Charlie!”
Whether saying good boy or girl is stereotyping or not, I agree that we should try not to say it much. It’s easy to just say things without thinking about what you are saying. I believe that everything we do in the room is important. By actually thinking about what I say to the children I can turn a meaningless phrase into a positive interaction between myself and the child.